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When Having All the Answers Isn’t A Good Thing

One of the nettling things about good leadership is that it changes as your role and stature in an organization changes. It turns out that many of the very practices that distinguished you in lower levels of the org chart actually become liabilities or limiters when you reach the executive suite. This means that if you want to be most effective in a top job, you’ve got to unlearn some of the best lessons you learned early on, or stop doing some of the very things that won you the higher position in the first place. Here’s one of those things: Stop answering people’s questions.

When you are at lower levels on the org chart, or when you’re an “independent performer”, your path to greater influence and opportunity lies in your ability to provide answers. You might do this literally by providing the data or information called for by decisions and decision-makers, or metaphorically by providing the solution to new problems or opportunities. Either way, your ability to personally provide answers and fill the info gap is the key to your credibility, the measure of your effectiveness, and likely your ticket to the “big time.” However, once you’ve made it to the “big time” (or at least the “bigger time”) your success depends less on your own effectiveness than on your ability to foster others’. In this endeavor, your ability and/or inclination to provide answers yourself is not only less useful, but counterproductive.

Effective leadership at this level is about preparing others to provide the answers, and they tend not to do this if you’re busily doing it yourself. I frequently hear executives bemoan the fact that their people won’t “step up” or “answer the tough questions.” They’re frustrated and disappointed and they don’t understand their lack of initiative. “After all,” they say, “when I was in their position I always had the answers…” The problem is, they still do, and it creates a vicious cycle, a self-fulfilling prophesy, that creates the very situation they are disliking.

Followers adjust their actions to fit their leaders’, and if a leader is too full of answers, she will eventually discover that her team is only full of questions. If you find yourself in this predicament, you’ll feel like your subordinates’ action (or inaction) is the impetus for your own, but its likely just as true in reverse. They are taking their cues from you. It’s counterintuitive, but to fix this scenario, you need to flip the script.

At this level, success doesn’t come from how much you know or can figure out; it comes from how much your people know and are willing to do, so keep the focus on them. Make a space for their answers by resisting the urge to give your own. Stop answering questions and start asking them instead. Turn e-mails back to the sender with more question marks than periods, and let people leave your office unresolved more often. This doesn’t mean that you should offer no feedback or guidance at all (being clueless and disengaged is a poor leadership strategy at every level) but use your input to shape consideration and direct discussion more productively rather than to settle it once and for all.

I know you often know the answer, and I that it’s often a better answer than what others might provide, but sometimes its better to have a lesser answer from someone else. I also know it’s often faster, more efficient, to simply provide the answers yourself, but sometimes speed isn’t what you need most. Your own expertise and initiative got you to this role, but it’s your ability to build others’ that is going to take you higher. If you’re not careful and sensitive to this dynamic you risk being another promising leader that didn’t pan out, or worse, one more brilliant failure.

Life Under the Tower: Spring has Sprung!

Life Under the Tower blurbs run in a regular e-newsletter of the same name to students at Belmont University. Archives are here: http://blogs.belmont.edu/underthetower/

I don’t know what you did last week, but I’ve heard enough stories of sunny places and ski slopes, adventures in other countries, and relaxation at home to make me good and jealous. I’m glad many of you had such eventful Spring Breaks. I’ve heard from others of you who didn’t have “adventures” per se, but used the break to simply catch up on other things like sleep, homework, jobs, and relationships. I can relate better to that. I didn’t jet off to an exotic locale (unless you call the Beaman Center “exotic”); I just barricaded myself in my office and dove into the things that had buried my desk. Whether your Spring Break was glamorous or not, at least it was exactly that, a break– a much-needed pause in the rush and routine of the spring semester.

Every year, this pause is a mile marker in life under the tower that signals a shift in the perspective of those living it. Before Spring Break, for better or worse, we feel like we have plenty of time; the semester is still gearing up, getting going. We feel like there’s a lot going on, but there’s also plenty of time to get it all done. After Spring Break, it feels like time suddenly got short; we’ve got even more going on, but we realize it’s going to be hard to finish before the end. In the space of one little week, our perspective goes from ramping-up-to-hit-our-stride to hurrying-up-to-beat-the-clock. Freshmen, who are barely over feeling new, find themselves blinking at the realization that their first year is almost over. Seniors, who already thought things were moving a little too fast this winter, are shocked at how much larger commencement and life beyond the tower can loom now that spring has officially sprung.

For such a short space on the calendar, Spring Break makes a big difference in our attitude, and make no mistake, attitude matters. Your emotional posture shapes a lot of your experience. When you’re excited or hopeful, you’re stronger and more resilient. You dream more and give yourself more fully to your experience. But when you’re anxious or overwhelmed, you’re weaker, more fragile, and you find yourself managing life more than really living it. We’ve all experienced the difference. Here’s some advice to make the most and get the most out of the last two months of the school year: remember why you’re here.

With the change of perspective Spring Break brings, it’s natural to tune-in more fully to what you have to do, and that’s not a bad thing. (Setting your eye harder on the prize as the finish line comes into view is good strategy…) But it’s important to tune in more fully to why you have to do it too. If the rush of the year’s end leads you to let the What eclipse the Why, it’s hard to finish strong. After Spring Break, the weight of responsibility naturally rises, and you can’t afford to let the sense of opportunity that sustained you before Spring Break disappear.  You need that sense of purpose and possibility to be strong when it counts. I put it this way to the leaders I work with: People don’t burn out from too much to do, but from too little reason to do it.

In the next couple months of your life under the tower, when your To Do List looks long and your time looks short, the key to not only making it, but making the most of it lies in this principle. You’re at your best and can accomplish amazing things when you don’t let the What eclipse the Why.

Life Under the Tower: Blessings of the Unexpected

Life Under the Tower blurbs run in a regular e-newsletter of the same name to students at Belmont University. Archives are here: http://blogs.belmont.edu/underthetower/

Judging from my conversations with some of you recently, November is a big month. Life under the Tower is already busy with multiple showcases, campus events, and the arrival of Basketball season with First on the Floor. Classes are demanding and the push is on, with midterms behind and the last weeks to make or break your grades ahead. Throw in a dose of Life Beyond the Tower and its distractions: the uninvited visit from Sandy in the east and northeast, the din of a presidential election, the potential breakup of the Civil Wars, and the relational or caloric complications of the Thanksgiving holiday, and it might feel like your well-laid plans for the semester might be slipping a bit. Don’t worry, that’s par for the course. November is the time to take stock and make choices; the time to stay the course in some areas, and to step it up in others.

November seems to be the time in the year when you realize that some of the things you anticipated haven’t worked out as expected. In some cases this can be disappointing, but in others it can be a pleasant realization or relief– Turns out, your roommate is less into in personal hygiene than you’d hoped, but your freshman seminar isn’t as daunting as it seemed. Time and attention are harder to come by than you wish, but some great relationships have emerged from the unexpected moments you’ve had “in-between”. The job or internship didn’t open the doors you had in mind, but it’s got you thinking and exploring in a whole new direction.

The thing is, the fall semester rarely tracks just the way you think it should, and November is usually about the time this either dawns on you for the first time or simply becomes impossible to ignore. But just because it hasn’t panned out exactly as you imagined doesn’t mean it’s necessarily bad. In fact, the unexpected twists and turns in the plot line often bring the challenges and opportunities you need most.

As you head into the Thanksgiving Break later this month, spend a little time regrouping, and give a little gratitude to the unexpected things: the relationship you didn’t see coming but now couldn’t do without, the disappointment or failure that beat you up but made you stronger or wiser for the future, the trophy that seemed unreachable but now sits in your case, the loss that knocked you down or drained your spirit, but tuned and tempered your compassion, the opportunity you couldn’t have imagined but now makes you grin when you read this line.

Whatever it might be, challenge yourself to count the Blessings of the Unexpected.